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I believe that our daughters chose to co-create this life together with us. Whether biological, adopted, by marriage or however she has come into your life, at one point your soul and her soul chose to connect earthside for this journey you are on. 

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I believe the light shines where the cracks are. Your daughter will trigger and re-trigger wounds that need to be healed within you from your own journey in order to breaks cycles and empower her and yourself. Lean into the triggers, they are your road map.

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I believe that our daughters are our greatest teachers that their actions and behaviors are often a mirror to the wounds that we need to heal within ourselves, these lessons can often feel like rejection, anger, sadness, pain and fear. We need to see past the pain to the root lesson in order to change it. We need to FEEL in order to heal.

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I believe that emotional intelligence is the foundation of empowerment. When a girl is able to sit with an emotion in her body, identify the feeling and root cause, she will then be able to use the tools we give her to work through that emotion to the outcome she is seeking in a healthy way. Healthy emotional intelligence leads to a decline in risky and unhealthy behaviors.

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I believe that intuition is  a gift and a personal roadmap we are all given but society has taught us to turn it off or rationalize it away. The more we teach girls to listen to their bodies and the whispers of their heart the faster she will stand in her own power.

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I believe the stories we tell ourselves will come true, that we co-create with the universe and that our thoughts have power. Want to change your story? Change your thoughts. You think the twos are terrible, that is what you will see. You think your teenage daughter will push you away and not want to talk to you, that is what you will see. What would it look like if we reversed these stories the world tells us is true and instead created stories filled with connection and love? How would you show up differently?

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I believe that Strong Personal Identity is a foundational tenet to becoming a powerful girl but in order for our daughters to develop this WE have to heal our own stories and wounds in order to be able to create a healthy detachment to allow our daughters to develop and show up as WHO they are and not who we hope they will be. 

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I believe that Independence is a foundational tenet to becoming a powerful girl but society conditions us to be co-dependent, especially women. The sooner we start practicing and allowing our daughters autonomy and independence the more powerful she becomes because she learns what she is truly capable of. The ability to allow the independence and autonomy that girls need relies heavily our our ability to face and heal our own fears and insecurities as the two are connected.

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I believe that Leadership is a foundational tenet to becoming a powerful girl but that many people confuse leadership with loudness or bigness. Leadership for each girl can look different, sometimes it is quiet like a whisper and sometimes is is loud; neither is stronger than the other. In order for a girl to lead others she must first learn to lead herself, and that relies on her developing a Strong Personal Identity and Independence.

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I believe that motherhood is a cyclical journey. Sometimes we have to pull back to a cocoon, reconnect with ourselves and heal in order to move forward. I call this “Motherhood Metamorphis” and we will all go through several of these cycles on our journey, emerging changed each time. With community and the right support these changes can become transformational.

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We live in a society that values instant gratification, rewards, trophies, and prizes, with an emphasis on achieving the end goal. The problem with this is that often the journey is overlooked or rushed in order to get that next dopamine hit of feeling good at completion. However, that dopamine hit is short-lived and leaves you feeling unfulfilled quite quickly. Have you ever felt or heard someone say, “But I thought once I achieved X, Y, or Z, I would feel differently? But nothing has changed?” That is what happens when you focus solely on the end result and not on taking pleasure in the journey.
My youngest daughter is a lover of instant gratification. She wants to do things now, fast, and achieve results right away. A setback or error can often frustrate her, leaving her emotionally overwhelmed. One of my goals for her this year is to learn to trust in the journey and enjoy the experience, to problem-solve and deal with mistakes head-on, repeatedly. I want her to make mistakes, and lots of them! Why? Because I want her to feel safe and comfortable in her body when she makes an error, so she doesn’t freeze but pivots and problem-solves.
How do you feel in your body when you make a mistake or error? For years, it brought me shame, feelings of being less than or not good enough, and all this did was hold me back. When we focus on the journey and understand that mistakes are part of the process, we teach our nervous systems to feel safe in making these mistakes. We teach resiliency and create an unstoppable force that will not be easily deterred.
For example, my nine-year-old daughter Arya is learning to sew on a sewing machine. We are using this skill to teach her all of the above. She had to rip up at least 12 seams today. The first time she made a mistake, she threw a tantrum complete with alligator tears, stomping, yelling, and saying, “This is too hard, I can’t do this.” With gentle coaching, by the end of the day, she was calmly ripping out a seam to correct a mistake, listening to music, humming, and saying, “Oh well, at least I can just try again.” Teach your daughters to feel safe failing.
#raisingapowerfulgirl #fail #consciousparenting #homeschoolfamily
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Dear mama, when you are feeling frustrated and heavy hearted just remember that you chose to be on this journey together. You can both do hard things together 💕 #spiritualmama #spiritualparenting #consciousparenting #peacfulparenting ...

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The words and language we use have the power to shape our thoughts and how we view the world. Reframing the language we use is a skill I work on a lot with my daughters and the mamas I work with. Once phrase we have to stop saying is “Girls are Mean”. WHY? Because overtime we use that phrase we justify the behavior and generalize the expectation that this is just the way it is . You train your brain to expect girls to be mean and that is how you will interpret every action and behavior. Lets look at some examples

When you say to your daughter - “Girls are mean” it creates a filter in her brain that she will now apply when she interprets behavior by other girls. If a friend of hers is busy one day at a family even and doesn’t respond to a text right away your daughter might think she is being dismissed. If your daughter sees her friend out with a new group of peers from her new soccer team she might feel like she is being excluded. Using the phrase will cause her to automatically come up with a negative response to the behavior.

Your daughter might start focusing ONLY on negative behavior because in her mind “girls are mean”, she will hyper focus on all the negative and family to see the positive actions and interactions because that is what she has trained her brain to think. Our brains actually like to focus on the negative so they can become a viscous cycle that can become hard to break.

It might get to the point where your daughter generalizes and applies this term to everyone that she fails to even try and form new connections or relationships because what is the point “girls are mean”

The language we use is very powerful, oftentimes we just need to reframe the worlds we use and help reframe how our daughters interpret action and interactions.

Want to learn more? Join me on our Friendship Workshop where I give mamas like you the tools and information you need to help girls navigate friendships, relationships, mean girls and more while staying true to themselves LINK IN OUR BIO #raisingapowerfulgirl #bullyingawareness #languagematters #motherhood #motherdaughter #friendship
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For the mamas struggling with their relationship with their daughters. I want you to reframe what you are going through right now. Everything that is happening in your relationship with your daughter at the moment is a lesson for both of you if you choose to embrace the darkness and find the light.

The number one indicator to a successful relationship in adults is communication and dealing with tough situations. Most of us are very bad at repairing relationships. We break and fall apart easier than we think. How a couple can work through these situations and the tools they have at their disposal will indicate the health of their relationship and their success. WHERE DO THEY GET THOSE TOOOLS?? Practicing them at home… it starts with you mama!

How will she fix things when it goes wrong?
How will she fight in a way that will not break the relationship but will be a source of learning and growth, clearing and resetting?
How will she communicate?

How will she repair the relationship when things go bad? How do you communicate your needs, wants, desires? How do you set and reinforce boundaries. How do you say no? How do you stop to actively listen to the other person to have clear communication.

You have the opportunity RIGHT NOW to do just that with her. Repair your relationship. Show her that you can work together to heal, and grow together instead of pushing each other further apart.

This is a life lesson that will serve you both in so many ways. If you are struggling with this and need more support reach out, healing relationships is one of my favorite aspects of motherhood mentorship.

Sending you love and light #raisingapowerfulgirl #motherhood #motherdaughter #relationshipgoals #motherdaughterrelationship
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On days you are struggling a good reminder is that you and your daughter CHOSE each other to co-create on this journey earthside. You both were sent to each other to learn and grow TOGETHER. The journey isn't meant to be easy at every turn but rather challenge you both to become the best versions of yourself. On days that I am struggling I remind myself of this and remember that the times that seem dark and heavy are where we have the potential for the greatest growth and change to occur. How are you growing today? <3 #raisingapowerfulgirl #souljourney #soulconnection #soulawakening #motherhood #motherdaughter #motherdaughterlove #souljourney ...

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How can I love you today?
On days when my girls are really struggling, when their behavior is all over the place, they are difficult, grouchy, angry and explosive I remind myself that their behavior is a reflection of something going on in their world. Either their internal environment or external environment. I remind myself that when they are pushing us away is when they need us the most and they need the reminder that our love for them doesn’t change even during the harder moments. The mantra going through my head is, “how can I love you today?” Meaning, knowing each of my daughters love language and personality what can I do to remind them of my love for them, to remind them that even when they are struggling I am a grounding force for them to help them regulate their emotions. Maybe it’s touch, a hug or snuggle or back rub. Maybe it’s a cup of cocoa, warm blanket and soft candles. Maybe it’s words of affirmation or acts of service helping them with a task that is weighing on them. It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture, but something simple as a reminder of our love during those tough moments. So next time you are struggling ask yourself, “how can I love you today?” “What might you need from me”. When we change our perspective on how we view situations we open doors and other opportunities for deeper connection #raisingapowerfulgirl #creatingconnections #consciousparenting #gentleparenting #motherhood #motherdaughter #lovelanguage
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This week on the podcast we continute to talk about creating trust and communication with our daughters. How do you develop such a deep level of trust that she comes to you for anything? Even those really BIG I made a huge moments? Listen to find out on your favorite podcast platform
#raisingapowerfulgirl #parentingpodcast #parentingpodcasts #motherhoodpodcast #womenwhopodcast #buildingtrust #communication #solutionsoriented #solutionfocused
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This week on the podcast! If there is ONE podcast episode to listen to it is this one. If you are struggling with your daughter AT ANY AGE, THIS is the one to listen to. THIS is where your road map of healing begins. You can listen on your favorite podcast platform or below www.raisingapowerfulgirl.com/podcast #raisingapowerfulgirl #empoweringmoms #selfreflection #motherhood #motherlove #raisinggirls ...

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Don’t know where to start with transforming your relationship with your daughter here are two questions to ask yourself:

I'd love to hear from those who have their three what works for you and your daughter for others to get ideas! Post below if you feel free to share! <3
##raisingapowerfulgirl #copingskills #copingstrategies #communication #raisinggirls #raisingteens #healthycopingskills
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A clip from this weeks podcast episode: (continued form image) And we do that because it's oftentimes much easier, emotionally, physically, mentally, energetically, to just accept these behaviors or accept these experiences than having to do the work of setting boundaries, advocating, digging into our own history, and garbage and clearing and doing the work. And I just want to acknowledge this, it is difficult, and sometimes it's just easier to give in. We are all in different places in our life. We all have different amounts of energy. We're all in different places of healing, that sometimes we will use "normal" to justify these behaviors because it is a lot of work to set these boundaries and to reframe things. Normal makes you feel like part of the crowd. It helps you to fit in when you're having conversations with other moms. It's easy to say "oh yeah, my teen daughter does it too". "Yep, that's normal." "Yep, she's just like that too," because nobody wants to say "nope, my girl doesn't do that." Most of us don't like to say that. I say that all day long. Because I want to give you hope that you don't have to accept certain things. And there's very few of us that are comfortable and able to say this but there's many of us that actually do this work and and create our own normal, and don't accept these things for face value. So I'm going to describe to you what some of my normals are compared to what some of the normals other people have are. Sometimes we don't know how to reframe, or dissolve this normal. We don't even know how it could be any different. We just think that this is just how things are. I can't even imagine what it looks like on the other side to do something differently or to have different behavior." Listen to the full episode on your favorite podcasting platform or link in our bio #spiritualparenting #motherhood #DivineFeminine #tiredmom #generationaltrauma #GenerationalHealing #Raisingpowerfulgirl #girlmom #womenempowerwomen #mentalhealth #conversationswithmydaughters #settingboundaries #teengirls #emotionalhealing #personaldevelopment #podcast #womenwhopodcast ...

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ON today’s podcast episode, I'm gonna tell you a little story. Do you remember those Choose your own adventure books when you were little? I loved those books. Going through, having something happen and then there were two paths that you could take each one bringing you to a different part of your journey. I think a lot of parenting is like choose your own adventure. We have the opportunity to choose our own adventure when we respond to things. And that's what I talk a little bit about today.
I think one of the most wanted connection piece that I hear from Mothers day in and day out is this concept of trust.
My daughter doesn't trust me. What's the one thing that I want? For her to trust me, for me to trust her, and trust is, not something that is inherently given. It is something that is earned every single day. Every action has the ability to build trust or break down trust, and it goes both ways.
But as mothers, we are the role models, the mentor, the guide. It is our job to show up and create actions that build trust. Your perception or your interpretation of the world or situations around you creates your reality. It's how you perceive things that's going to determine how you respond to the things around you and the actions and consequences as a result of that.
When we have different information in front of us, or when we are taught to pause and take a step back and look and see what information we might be missing, it will create a different perspective and interpretation and perhaps a different reality.
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Get a copy of our cell phone contract for free below. Did you listen to last weeks podcast episode "The Link between Social Media and Girls Mental Health Crisis and more" Listen today and find out how we implement this took in our home and take a Pro-active approach to technology and boundaries as opposed to a reactionary approach. Listen on your favorite podcasting platform. See links in our bio for podcast and download ! #raisingapowerfulgirl #consciousparenting #cellphonecontract #parentingtips #parentingtweens #parentingteens #raisinggirls #girlmom ...

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This week on the podcast, helping girls push past fear. How do you handle a negative teenager? How do you help when they are spiraling because of a big test or competition or public speaking? What do you do when it brings up your own fears and insecurities? Check out episode 183 “ Helping Girls Push Past Fear - Tips and Tricks” on your favorite podcasting platform or at www.RaisingAPowerfulGirl.com/podcast
#raisingapowerfulgirl #teenmentalhealth #mindsetmatters #teenmindset #raisinggirls #teenmom #womenwhopodcast #parentingpodcast #parentingtips #mindsetiseverything #mindsetshift
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This week on the podcast we are looking at the link between social media usage and the HUGE spike in mental health issues in girls. We look at some reasons why this is occurring and dive into technology usage, cell phone contracts, resources to help you navigate wherever you are on your journey and more. Listen on your favorite podcasting platform or www.RaisingAPowerfulGirl.com/podcast #motherhood #Raisingpowerfulgirl #girlmom #womenempowerwomen #mentalhealth #conversationswithmydaughters #teengirls #podcast #personaldevelopment #womenwhopodcast ...

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From podcast episode #180 "5 Things that can BUILD UP or BREAK DOWN trust with your daughter". The trigger is the roadmap of healing you need to be who your daughter needs you to be. The path you choose to take will determine whether you continue to clash with your daughter or heal and connect. Which road will you take? Will you choose the transformation? #spiritualparenting #motherhood #DivineFeminine #tiredmom #generationaltrauma #GenerationalHealing #Raisingpowerfulgirl #girlmom #mentalhealth #conversationswithmydaughters #teengirls #emotionalhealing #podcast #personaldevelopment #womenwhopodcast ...

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Sometimes we find ourselves holding onto things just to be right because the is why we know or how we were raised and it causes opposition with our daughters. Sometimes what we need to do is take a step back and see if this is really something you need to hold onto or something that needs to be changed. The opposition is an opportunity for self reflection, “Is this really what I want, Does this match my values and what I want for a relationship with my daughter, how important is this too me, WHY am I actually doing this”……
#spiritualparenting #EmotionalIntelligence #motherhood #generationaltrauma #GenerationalHealing #Raisingpowerfulgirl #conversationswithmydaughters #mentalhealth #settingboundaries #teengirls #emotionalhealing #podcast #personaldevelopment #womenwhopodcast
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This week on the podcast I share my 5+ year journey yoyo-ing with whole “mommy-wine” narrative and how it was actually damaging my relationship with my girls. This is a shame free and judgement free podcast episode of my own personal journey and revelations on what the wine was covering up and the transformation I underwent. Shares with vulnerability and an open heart you can listen on your favorite podcast platform or link in our bio #Raisingapowerfulgirl #emotionalhealing #sobermom #nervoussystem ...

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See the trigger and dig into the root cause to heal and break the cycle. #spiritualparenting #motherhood #DivineFeminine #tiredmom #generationaltrauma #GenerationalHealing #Raisingpowerfulgirl #girlmom #womenempowerwomen #selfcare #mentalhealth #conversationswithmydaughters #settingboundaries #emotionalregulation #emotionalhealing #teengirls ...

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How do I get my daughter to stand up for herself? To a bully? To an mean girl? To an abusive partner? To an innapropriate boss? And so forth? Honing her voice starts at home, in a space created to allow her to practice boundaries and speak up for herself but those that love her most in the world... Thats you mama <3 #spiritualparenting #motherhood #GenerationalHealing #Raisingpowerfulgirl #girlmom #womenempowerwomen #mentalhealth #conversationswithmydaughters #settingboundaries #toxicrelationships #emotionalregulation #teengirls #emotionalhealing #personaldevelopment ...

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" You need to be the safe place. You need to be the safe place like physically and the safe place emotionally. You cannot be a safe place emotionally if you are not feeling safe in your own body. And if your nervous system is dysregulated, you do not feel safe in your own body."

I pulled this card right before I recorded this weeks podcast episode and I can't tell you how fitting it was. If you ever listen on ONE of my podcast episodes this is the one, #180 is probably the most powerful and profound one with tons of information to change you and your daughters relationship...

Listen more on your favorite podcasting platform or visit www.RaisingAPowerfulGirl.com/podcast
#spiritualparenting #motherhood #tiredmom #generationaltrauma #GenerationalHealing #womenempowerwomen #selfcare #girlmom #mentalhealth #conversationswithmydaughters #settingboundaries #emotionalregulation #coregulation #teengirls #emotionalhealing #podcast #personaldevelopment #womenwhopodcast
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They are watching everything you do, who you are and how you show up in the world! Are you modeling the behavior you wish to see in them? My daughters were watching tv the other day and I walked by and saw a girl in a beautiful dress and I said, “Wow, that dress is beautiful”. My youngest one said, “You should have seen the other girls dress. It was a black and white ball but she showed up in a Red dress instead because she didn’t want to wear white”. My eldest says back, “yeah mama she was showing some real Maria F (my name) vibes, she doesn’t care what people think, she wears what she wants and isn’t afraid to be different from everyone else, she is awesome!” I was stunned, shocked and surprised. This was one of the most important lessons I have been trying to instill in my daughters. Strong personal identity, strong sense of self, the ability to show up authentically in a world that wants you to conform, being comfortable with standing out. How did I do it? How did they learn this? I have lived this way for a long time, getting stronger and more confident with each passing year. The black sheep, the feather ruffler, the outcast. Labels that have been thrown at me that I have chosen to EMBRACE instead of letting it squash me. Its my everyday interactions, how I communicate with people, how I show up, how I advocate for myself, how I advocate for my daughters, how I communicate with those around me and the boundaries I set. It’s living this authentically that is giving my daughters permission to step up and do the same. How do we empower our daughters? We do this by doing the work ourselves because they are watching us. What path are you clearing for them to step into? #raisingmothers #raisingapowerfulgirl #girlmom #womensupportingwomen #womenempowerment ...

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What do you do when you find out your teen has made a HUGE mistake. Like nauseating, heart palpitations bad? How do you handle it? How do you have a conversation that still creates connection and trust? On today’s episode I dish out the details on just this, the visceral response it triggered in me, how I celebrated my daughter and how I handled consequences moving forward. What it looks like to have this conversation from a healed pro-active space instead of a reactive one. Listen on your favorite podcasting platform or see the link in our bio #womenwhopodcast #Raisingapowerfulgirl #girlmom #Consciousparenting ...

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