Our mindset and the language we use can greatly impact our everyday lives, and it's a topic that I frequently address when working with moms, whether in a group setting or one-on-one.
Let's dive deeper into the science behind mindset and language. Our subconscious is incredibly powerful. For example, my daughter Alexa has ADHD and is prone to ruminating over everything. This means that her brain never stops working and is constantly going over everything in her head. Negative thoughts can also be a part of this, and in general, this can be a typical experience for teenagers dealing with hormones and other issues.
As moms, we often struggle to connect with our daughters, and this can be due to the language we use. Instead of saying that we don't like our daughters, we can reframe it as struggling to connect with them. Language can have a long-lasting impact, so it's important to be mindful of how we label our daughters and their behavior.
For example, instead of seeing them as lazy, unorganized, or disrespectful, we can try to see things from a lens of curiosity. Maybe they're going through a developmental stage or having difficulty connecting with us. We can pick our battles and lower our expectations when necessary. By shifting our language and mindset, we can improve our relationship with our daughters and create a more positive atmosphere.
It's also essential to take care of ourselves first and foremost. As moms, we often neglect our own self-care, leading to burnout and emotional exhaustion. Without emotional bandwidth, it's hard to look at things from a lens of curiosity. Taking time for ourselves and practicing self-care can help us shift our mindset and language toward a more positive outlook.
Now, let's talk about how we can apply these concepts in our everyday lives. When we notice negative thoughts creeping into our minds, we can take a step back, breathe deeply, and reframe our thoughts. Instead of focusing on what could go wrong, we can focus on what could go right. This practice can apply to any aspect of our lives, from work to relationships to personal goals.
We can use positive language to reinforce our mindset. Using affirmations and positive self-talk can help us shift our thoughts toward a more positive outlook. For example, we can replace "I can't do this" with "I can do this, and I will succeed." By using positive language, we reinforce the idea that we are capable of achieving our goals.
Mindset and language are powerful tools that can greatly impact our everyday lives. By being mindful of our language and shifting our mindset, we can improve our relationships with our daughters and create a more positive atmosphere. It takes practice and time, but with effort and patience, we can change our thought patterns and create a better future for ourselves and our daughters. Let's take the first step toward a more positive mindset and language today!