Growing up means making mistakes. The problem with this, according to Julie Lythcott-Haims, the former dean of freshmen at Stanford University and author of “How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success,” is that parents never let their children grow up. Growing up means making your own decisions, and sometimes, mistakes, she told The Times. “The point is to prepare the kid for the road, instead of preparing the road for the kid,” Lythcott-Haims said.
Lythcott-Haims said it’s difficult for snowplow parents to break the habit of being a child’s fixer, always plowing away all the difficulties. “If you’re doing it in high school, you can’t stop at college,” she said. “If you’re doing it in college, you can’t stop when it comes to the workplace. You have manufactured a role for yourself of always being there to handle things for your child, so it gets worse because your young adult is ill-equipped to manage the basic tasks of life.” Lythcott-Haims said parents eventually have to take a back seat and let their kids drive their own lives. “You can’t just arrive them at the future you want for them. They have to do the work to build the skills,” she said.
Today on the podcast we are joined by Steve Simons
Educational psychologist 30 years as business and leadership coach, former school psychologist and director of special ed, co-founder and head success coach – Launch-Your-Life.com, Steve has spent a lot of time working with and understanding teens. Steve is a frequent contributor regarding teenage issues on local NBC affiliate [WNYT], as well as – on-line parents’ groups and has dedicated his life to helping to develop personal leadership in young people
For more information on Steve you can find him at www.launch-your-life.com